How do you make friends? I have no friends other than my SO and it has been that way for many years. Even for online friends I have trouble knowing when to message, what to say, and how often to start conversations. I usually convince myself they don’t like to hear from and stop initiating conversations :(
Stick to your interests - tabletop gaming and d&d groups specifically are an easy way to make friends. Likewise physical activity groups like biking, hiking, or running. Volunteering can be hit or miss depending on your age bracket.
A lot of game shops have open game night where you just show up and play various games with strangers. Great way to practice meeting and talking to people.
Man i wish i lived in a civilized place, my nearest flgs is like 3 counties away. Somehow the bar scene isn’t even any better! If i wanted to make unrelated friends I’d have to go to church (🤮) or something.
Chances are you can find a cause in your community people have gathered around.
Sometimes though you might be in aplace where there’s just no community for you which is a reality in various rural areas. You might need to make the drive those 3 counties over.
If it’s real bad you might need to decide between your roots and living closer to communities you mesh well with. Depends on what’s important for you in life and where you can find work.
Most recently, I’ve made some very interesting friends through volunteering. You’re pretty much stuck with a group of people for a period of time and it gives you a perfect pretense to start conversations - and if you pick a cause you care about, you’re very likely to meet like-minded people.
most notably, in-person friendships require much less time investment to develop than online friendships, IMO (not that online friendships aren’t just as enjoyable)
Its truly a numbers game, though. Put yourself out there enough and eventually something will click.
Volunteering is a great way! You can also go to festivals with clubs (free market, ren fair, hobby conventions) and ask how to get involved. Just walk up to people and express intereat and ask how to participate. Oftrn they’ll be excited to get you into the community.
Pick and choose. You’ll meet a lot of toxic people. You need to identify toxic traits such as bullying or people ignoring your needs.
Lastly, you’re going to mesh with some people. The people you end up talking to for a long time. It’s 1 in a thousand for me. So, wide net.
I agree. Sometimes you get very lucky. I was volunteering at a boy scout camp and happened upon an absolute nerd of a man. Same kind of computer nerd as me. (linux, open source hardware) the whole nine. We just worked together at random too.
Basically go volunteer, you’ll run into interesting people.
Thanks for your advice everyone. I was drunk and sad last night when I posted this. I love this community 🥹
for online friends u can message any time at any frequency and the other person will answer at any time and frequency they want, thats the neat part of online messages :3 and for what to say, ask each other questions until u find common interests and talk about those and also mention other things to maybe find more common interests! :3
Aww. I don’t think I really have advice other than allow yourself to be a little annoying. More people should do that, honestly. Otherwise, everyone gets busy and forgets each other until a birthday comes up.
I do want to extend a warm, welcome, Internet hug, though. <3
