Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn’t shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

// Edit:

Thank you for all the recommendations and input. I wasn’t aware of the pouch feature. Researched all suggested brands and:

Ordered from overseas:

  • SAXX
  • BN3TH

Currently not deliverable:

  • Step One

Lululemon does have a store in the city, so I will go there next week to try those on.

34 points

This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn’t believe. Yes there’ll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there’s plenty that are more “reserved”.

BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

And because the queer community largely (not always, but we’re working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

permalink
report
reply
13 points

It never for one second occurred to me that a gay me could have a wider choice of underwear than a straight me currently does. Firing up the private browser tab as we speak - thanks for the info.

permalink
report
parent
reply
12 points

better fire up the VPN too. You don’t want your ISP to know that you’re gay-boxer-curious!

permalink
report
parent
reply
4 points

I was about to say something similar. Like I started wearing some “women’s” underwear and running shorts even before I realized I wasn’t a guy. Obviously for people that aren’t trying to hide things I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it, but some of the underwear I have now is just better than tons men’s underwear I wore pre-transition. Just materials, and seam placement, and color options, all of it. You can still find boxers and everything. It’s kind of just better.

permalink
report
parent
reply
2 points

Huge thanks for this!

permalink
report
parent
reply
1 point

Most people would consider that I wear “gay” underwear but I am a straight guy. In high school my girlfriend convinced me to wear a thong for her and it’s been thongs, g-strings, bikinis and panties since. If you are an athletic guy or get hot easily then women’s panties are also a good option as they tend to use lighter material that will stretch enough in the crotch for a guy.

permalink
report
parent
reply
18 points

SAXX

They are pricey but totally worth it. They last a long time, are very comfortable and have a pouch for your stuff. You can usually find deals on their website for things like discontinued holiday prints. I don’t really care what mine look like so I wear a lot of Christmas themed boxer briefs. I’d recommend the Vibe.

permalink
report
reply
10 points

I moved trom Saxx to Bn3th because I found they stretched out less over time and thus last longer.

Design wise they’re practically identical to Saxx.

permalink
report
parent
reply
2 points

Nice. Those look legit too.

permalink
report
parent
reply
1 point
*

Got my BN3TH trunks from overseas today. I divided my 104 cm by 2.38 instead of 2.54. And therefore I ordered XXL. They fit perfectly but my trunk may be too small… sadbutshrugs

Sitting down was already clearing my first problem. I will wear them over the weekend since I will sit for an extended time and will move a lot as well.

Initially, the cuts on the back are bad for my butt; But this may due to the very loose size I got and may change once washed at 40°C.

I will report back after the weekend + after the next load on my washing machine with an edit. Thank you, Sir.

// Edit:

Since I did an follow-up post I need to clarify:

By a very loose cut I mean that the material has room to stretch. The BN3TH shorts have a bezieré cut on the back which compliments the men’s butt. They fit tightly but the cut is too loose, meaning I could benefit from it if I ordered the correct size. XL would align perfectly on both sides.

These undies are for Showers but Gainers. After receiving SAXX undies I recommend those for the latter - like me.

permalink
report
parent
reply
2 points

SAXX, BN3TH, 2NDR, HOOK…

permalink
report
parent
reply
13 points

Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

permalink
report
reply
2 points

After researching, I wear trunk-size retroshorts. You tip enabled me to query the internet. Thanks!

permalink
report
parent
reply
12 points

Duluth Trading men’s “Buck Naked” boxer briefs are pretty good.

permalink
report
reply
3 points

They’re good, but the armachillo ones are softer and more comfortable for me

permalink
report
parent
reply
2 points

Unfortunately the Duluth website doesn’t render any pictures. Neither on mobile nor on the desktop.

Will revisit !

permalink
report
parent
reply
11 points

Nothing fancy here, but Hanes makes boxer briefs with a little pouch to give your boys a little extra support.

I’m sure other brands offer a similar style, and may be even better, but I can at least vouch for the Hanes.

permalink
report
reply
3 points

+1 for the pouch Haines (boxer briefs) I’m literally wearing a pair right now

permalink
report
parent
reply
1 point

Sounds like the Shinesty I’m wearing. Hanes might be more cost effective though.

permalink
report
parent
reply
1 point

I like the idea of these, but I always have to keep mine hiked up for the pouch to get under my balls. And, the pouch somehow makes the tip of my penis pop out on a regular basis.

permalink
report
parent
reply
1 point

That’s not a bug, it’s a feature!

permalink
report
parent
reply

Ask Lemmy

!asklemmy@lemmy.world

Create post

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions

Please don’t post about US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have fun

Doxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'

This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spam

Please do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reason

Just remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.

It is not a place for ‘how do I?’, type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


Community stats

  • 11K

    Monthly active users

  • 2.5K

    Posts

  • 78K

    Comments