“Nonviolent Communication” by Marshall Rosenberg.
The lessons for communication and non-reactivity will pay dividends in every aspect of your interpersonal relations. Work, friendships, romantic relationships, even dealing with customer disservice.
The 7 habits of highly effective people. Stephen R. Covey
I like so much this book, it teaches so many things, one of those that I preach more is the 4 quadrant matrix for effective time management: An enlightening tool for people that live their lives solving crisis after crisis.
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Helps you understand how to set boundaries at work and general relationships, helped me as someone who’s a pretty big people pleaser.
Read it years ago when I was religious and it does have a Christian tone but it’s not overt or excessive. Looks like they re-released it recently.
The Tao of Pooh. If you are someone who has trouble taking a deep breath and being in the moment, slowing things down, this can be a helpful read. That and Zen And The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance helped me.
How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
Old Dale sets out in the 1920s to find a book about how to get along with people and gain confidence. What’s the secret sauce? He travels to many universities, corresponds with professors and other learned men, all to find there is no such book of wisdom! So he wrote one.
First off, it’s not some step-by-step textbook. The author himself says you can open it to any given chapter and have a read. True! Most of it is Carnegie telling short stories of his experiences and what he learned about people. Couple of examples that stick with me:
He finds himself at a dinner party where the host will not, cannot STFU. The man goes on and on so Carnegie listens politely and hardly says a word. By the end of the evening the host is walking him out telling him what a great orator and conversationalist he is!
In another story a man is terribly afraid of some near-future event, I think he fears losing his job? Carnegie walks him through his fears always asking him to imagine the worst outcome and then asking if he could live with it, not die. The answer is always yes.
It’s long been in the public domain.
It’s a good read (or listen if you’re into audiobooks) but it’s also easy to find the main points summarized.
