I’m having some personal issues causing some severe depression and anxiety. I’d like to get past this time as fast as possible, and my days are dragging on. I can’t sleep, which would be a good way to make time go fast. But I also can’t just play video games, I don’t have the motivation to play more than a few minutes and it also just makes me realize how alone I am with no friends or anyone I can connect with emotionally and I spiral into my anxiety and depression.

I can do stuff during the day, run, chores, etc. But as soon as I’m done, especially at night, I start freaking out and it seems like time stands still. Does anyone have any suggestions? Activities I can do that are mindless that will just kill time and get me through the night before I can just go to sleep?

I know this question is stupid but I’m looking for at least somewhat serious answers.

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It’s not the right choice, but alcohol has been doing well for me for this.

Dad died last year due to what I feel is my fault…

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I heard opioids also make doing jack shit easy.

Opiods and benzos help. That is something that will likely happen this month but I only have so many. And it only helps because it’s a change. If I took them every day I’d just need more and shit. So, those will come and help me sleep when I need it, not an every day thing.

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Hmm seems ur craving somthing different. And u said previously u got money so there is always travel throw a dart at a world map till it lands on land that isnt a warzone.

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Alcohol will temporarily alleviate anxiety and then make it much much worse. I do not recommend this at all. I’m sorry to hear you’re having a rough time.

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Stay the fuck away from alcohol, OP.

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Alcohol doesn’t help anyway.

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Using alcohol as a self-medicating behavior caused me more pain, ruined relationships, lost me jobs, etc. than anything else. Stay the fuck away.

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We all feel like it was our fault. The coulda/shoulda will eat you. Find something else to occupy your brain.

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We all feel like it was our fault

No. I feel like it was all YOUR fault.

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Well, let’s see…

Time in your local frame of reference slows down the closer you are to a gravitational force. This will give you the perception the rest of the universe is going much faster. However, you’d need a pretty strong gravitational force to notice any effect of it.

A black hole is one of the most powerful sources of gravity out there, but if you don’t want to waste millions of years travelling to some far away celestial body, you can find an even stronger gravitational force much closer to home:

Your mum.

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Unfortunately some people don’t have time to post that kind of bullshit on lemmy

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Unfortunately some people don’t experience time as a near concept

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Unfortunately time does not care about people

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unfortunately some people dont have a consistent internet connection

upvotes pls

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What about a bucket full of horse meth, then you didn’t need to sleep for a month?

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Kind of the wrong direction there. I WANT to sleep, but I can’t.

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Oh then just ignore my bad advice.

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Time is the one true currency why do you want to waste it? Learn to program or run linux but donr have the goal of i gotta learn this have the goal of i wanna learn this so so i do xyz fun thing with it. I mean u could always get a mindless job and u would be earning money that why ur productively wasting time. Learn to cook good food. Go touch grass and walk hell just go have a shower and go stand in the sun. Work out doesnt need to be much. Let yourself get bored let yourself reflect and think escapism leads to hate leads to suffering leads to alcoholism leads to the dark side.

Make urself a checklist of thing to do every day. Not goals to achieve but things to do that will slowly work u towards those goals. Then aim to do more than yesterday dont stress it if u fail as long as u did soenthing.

As Jordan Peterson would say go clean up ur room and make your bed.

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Learn to program

I’m a software engineer. I make really good money. I’m off work this week, but then next week, and also the weekends.

Go touch grass and walk

I run every day

Work out doesnt need to be much.

This actually is the problem for me. Running and working out actually help. But it only kills a couple hours, and then if I do more it’s not healthy and I’ll injure myself.

As Jordan Peterson would say go clean up ur room and make your bed.

Are you shitting me? You’re quoting jordan peterson?

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Damn seems like u got most things covered great to hear. How about contributing to a foss project if u can handle doing that in ur work break.

Just cos he is wrong about some things doeant mean he’s wrong about all. I mean even Hitler had some good points (everyone deserves a job land and a family thats the dream he sold the people.

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Is it burnout? Have you felt changes during vacations 3 weeks+? If you can afford it, maybe ask your employer for two or three months off unpaid, if you sell it as burnout prevention, it should also be in his interest.

Then get some sleep medication and do what your body tells you to.

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I’ve told my manager that I’m having issues. I don’t actually want to take time off because work is a pretty decent way to pass the time. But I’m not in a mental space to focus at my usual level. So I think I’ve got that covered

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OP doesn’t necessarily “want” to waste time. OP is going through some difficult things right now and looking for helpful advice just to get through the day, Yoda.

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