58 points

Never watched the show but I googled her and the problem isn’t that she’s a fatty. It’s that her face shape is so round, so people see more fat than if there.

I’m probably a good 50 pounds heavier but my family has obscenely high cheekbones so even as a fatty I have those hollows in my cheeks that people assume is thin. It’s not the weight there, it’s bone structure.

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14 points

Same. People always assume I’m a smaller clothing size than I actually am because of this. A (new, Karen) colleague recently asked if I’m on Ozempic because of my face. Like no it’s not Ozempic face, it’s my face.

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7 points

Wow, that’s fucking rude!

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47 points

Didn’t know about Bridgerton, googled, no shade, but category 5 titty event was grossly overselling it, cat 3 tops

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40 points

I don’t love the way it has to tear down the other characters in order to prop up the one. Surely the message could have been gotten across in a more wholesome way?

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4 points

Based on the comments in this thread, it seems like the show is making the other women look unappealing on purpose.

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29 points

On the one hand - big boobs, small boobs, big dick, small dick, short, tall, fat, thin, young, old, whatever quality, people have been happily fucking for the entire history of the species. Internet outrage at any given body type as being unacceptable is akin to virtual media eugenics and is stupid.

On the other hand - big boobs, small boobs, big dick, small dick, short, fat, tall, thin, young, old, what quality, I tire of both the media and its detractors telling me that I MUST be arbitrarily aroused by any given person because it satisfies a given narrative. This particular person is not sexually attractive to me not because of body size but because I’m old and she looks like a child to me.

Love who you want to love, fornicate with whichever consenting partner you wish. Take love where you can find it, and be happy when you can attain it.

On an unrelated note, one of my favorite lines came from Barbara Ehreinreich, though I can’t recall which book, and I’m going to heavily paraphrase as I don’t recall the exact quote: “The media was horrified to learn that elderly, wrinkled, fat couples were rolling around in bed together and enjoying it.”

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8 points
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I don’t think anyone is telling you that you have to find her attractive? It’s more a complaint at those people who say that she’s unrealistic as a love interest and that no-one could be attracted to her, which is simply hypocritical misogyny.

WRT the last paragraph, I’ve always liked James Joyce’s love letters. Sex and body image has become far too sanitised in media in my view.

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3 points

As long as it’s between two consenting adults I really don’t give a shit.

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22 points

The problem for me is I have watched Derry Girls and just saw Clare.

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11 points

God I love Derry Girls. It’s about time for a rewatch

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