Personally, I have never gotten the hype by the names “baby,” “babe,” “bae,” “honey,” it feels forced to me. I’ve seen those TikTok videos where as a joke people will address their spouses by their real names and the spouses get mad and say something like “my family and friends can call me that, but you can’t.” I’ve never gotten the seriousness of it. If we already know we’re boyfriend and girlfriend, or husband and wife, why should I have to address you by those names? Again, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with saying them, but using real names should become more common as well.
Probably something you won’t need to worry about until you start showering daily.
I don’t know. I think it would lead to weird conversations, especially during romantic events.
Jane: John, please put your pipi in my vivi soon as I believe I am properly irrigated.
John: Solid copy, Jane. I will proceed to initiate the insertion protocol.
Jane: I appreciate that, John.
John: You are welcome, Jane.
Jane: Oh my, John. That feels too big.
Jack: Sorry, Jane. That was me. I was distracted watching the news on the television when you spoke and must have misheard. I will pull out my pipi from your vivi, Jane.
Jane: Jack, you’re so distracted! haha
John: Announcement! I have completed the insertion protocol, everyone. Jane, is it too big?
Jack: Ouch! That is me, John.
John: Jack, oops. I think I am also distracted by the news on the television. The story about the wiffle ball team going to a Major League baseball game was engaging due to the similarities and differences between the two sports. Nonetheless, I will initiate the withdrawal protocol from Jack.
Jack: Thank you, John.
Jane: Attention in the mess hall including John and Jack! I have decided to terminate my participation in the currently proceeding intercourse attempt. Please robe and vacate within 53 second per the terms of services. I love you, John, Jack, and Jake.
Jake: Thank you, Jane.
Jane: You are welcome, Jake.
Jack: Thank you, Jane.
Jane: You are welcome, Jack.
John: Oh my, everyone. The wiffle ball team was at the baseball game. Is not that interesting?
Jake: John, please pay attention.
Jane: Thank you for getting John’s attention, Jack.
Jack: Jane, that was not me. Jake, please inform Jane that it was you that acquired John’s attention.
Jake: Jack, I will. Jane, it was I that acquired John’s attention.
Jane: Oh, Jake, thank you. Also, I retract my thanks to Jack.
John, Jack, & Jake: Noted, Jane.
John: Thank you, Jane.
Everyone: Okay, bye!
The End
See what I mean??
If you replace every name with a term of endearment, this is still super fucking weird. This has nothing to do with pet names.
I ran a test script below switching everyone’s names to the pet name Muffin to get a feel for it and have provided an analysis after.
Adapted Script
Jane: Muffin, please put your pipi in my vivi soon as I believe I am properly irrigated.
John: Solid copy, Muffin. I will proceed to initiate the insertion protocol.
Jane: I appreciate that, Muffin.
John: You are welcome, Muffin.
Jane: Oh my, Muffin. That feels too big.
Jack: Sorry, Muffin. That was me. I was distracted watching the news on the television when you spoke and must have misheard. I will pull out my pipi from your vivi, Muffin.
Jane: Muffin, you’re so distracted! haha
John: Announcement! I have completed the insertion protocol, Muffins. Muffin, is it too big?
Jack: Ouch! That is me, Muffin.
John: Muffin, oops. I think I am also distracted by the news on the television. The story about the wiffle ball team going to a Major League baseball game was engaging due to the similarities and differences between the two sports. Nonetheless, I will initiate the withdrawal protocol from Muffin.
Jack: Thank you, Muffin.
Jane: Attention in the mess hall including Muffin and Muffin! I have decided to terminate my participation in the currently proceeding intercourse attempt. Please robe and vacate within 53 second per the terms of services. I love you, Muffin, Muffin, and Muffin.
Jake: Thank you, Muffin.
Jane: You are welcome, Muffin.
Jack: Thank you, Muffin.
Jane: You are welcome, Muffin.
John: Oh my, Muffins. The wiffle ball team was at the baseball game. Is not that interesting?
Jake: Muffin, please pay attention.
Jane: Thank you for getting Muffin’s attention, Muffin.
Jack: Muffin, that was not me. Muffin, please inform Muffin that it was you that acquired Muffin’s attention.
Jake: Muffin, I will. Muffin, it was I that acquired Muffin’s attention.
Jane: Oh, Muffin, thank you. Also, I retract my thanks to Muffin.
John, Jack, & Jake: Noted, Muffin.
John: Thank you, Muffin.
Everyone: Okay, bye!
The End
I think you’re right. The thing that sticks out to me is that it becomes difficult to recognize to whom a person is speaking. For instance, let’s consider the following line:
Jane: Attention in the mess hall including Muffin and Muffin! I have decided to terminate my participation in the currently proceeding intercourse attempt. Please robe and vacate within 53 second per the terms of services. I love you, Muffin, Muffin, and Muffin.
Jane tries to get the attention of everyone present with emphasis on two specific people. Since she used the pet name Muffin for both, it is hard to discern specifically who, so we need to conduct a logic analysis. Reviewing the history of the script until that line, we notice that only three characters have been introduced. We could temporarily assume that she is not trying to get her own attention (this assumption is discussed further below), so that leaves John and Jack left. Be that as it may, she does say everyone, which can imply that there are other people. She also explicitly calls two people by name, which could suggest that there are other people present since she would not have to have mentioned them by name otherwise. Still and all, she could be an inefficient speaker, so we cannot be certain either way. For the sake of deduction, we have to conduct a run through by holding these assumptions as true for the time being. Precipitously, it gets even crazier because there are three characters to whom she refers to by pet name at the end. Holding our assumption that she is not referring to herself, our previous deductions would be proven invalid. That would clear things up for us as we would now know that she is referring to the first two Muffins in particular, just not who those two would be by discernible name. It also leaves us a bit charmed as to who is the possible new Muffin. Per contra, that would be holding our assumption that Jane is not referring to herself. I have heard people call themselves by name, so we cannot be certain. I conjecturize that if we had enough data, would could analyze how often someone refers to themselves by name, then use statistical methods to analyze and conclude confidence percentages.
In any case, I agree with you. Using pet names does not measurably make this interaction less weird. But something still feels uncomfortable. I wonder what it is then. Any ideas?
when i hear “honeyyyyy”, my immediate reaction is usually “oh they’re not real people”.
Find something more productive to do with your mental capacity. It’s their relationship, not yours. It’s none of your business and your opinion is not asked for. I have no earthly idea why you think you are that important to anyone to say some generalization on something so mundane.
You have your right to your opinion and share it with the Internet and now it’s up for a rebuttal. It’s between them. If they want to call each baby or babe or honey it’s their relationship. They aren’t asking for your participation. They are most certainly not asking for your evaluation either.
First you said “my opinion was not asked for” then you said “I have the right to my opinion and to share it with the internet.” You contradicted your entire statement. I never said it was a problem, I said using real names should be more normalized. It’s called unpopular opinion key word “opinion.” You’re the one wasting your time getting overly offended for people that you don’t even know.
That’s not a contradiction. That’s a fact. You have the right to your opinion, but the minute you share you open yourself to others opinions of yours. And I shared mine. It’s none of your concern.
lmao how is it a fact if you’re saying the exact opposite of what you said before? Make it make sense
TikTok is not real life. Nobody I know doesn’t use real names when addressing their spouse. I’ve literally never even met someone who would act the way you’re describing.
i know a lot of people who use babe and honey in real life.
you’ve never met anyone in your life who uses pet names for their SO?
Never using real names ≠ not using pet names.
I also have never met a couple that never calls each other by their given name. That doesn’t mean those same people never use pet names.
“Never using real names ≠ not using pet names.”
nobody said they were.
“That doesn’t mean those same people never use pet names.”
Cool, nobody’s making that argument except you.
That was not what I said. Reread what I said. Your entire argument in this comment section is based off of a complete misreading of my comment.
TikTok was an example. But those are real couples. I don’t know where you’re from but using real names is definitely not as common
I don’t get the agenda the other comments are trying to push by pretending people don’t use terms of endearment, but don’t worry, you’re definitely in the right here.
“terms of endearment” or “pet names” are common phrases because of the commonality of pet names, especially in romantic relationships.
Re-read the comments. No one argued that nobody uses terms of endearment. The argument is that using given names doesn’t need to be normalized because it’s already an extremely normal thing…and that the abnormal behavior would be someone actually getting upset that their SO called them by their given name.
using pet names, titles, or other things like that are useful in media when you want to convey the relationship.
Like when a movie has a man greet a woman. If he just said ‘hi jill’ you wouldn’t know who she is to him. If he says ‘hey babe’ you assume they’re in a relationship.
So idk what is actually more common in real situations but it’s easy to assume people only use pet names when you’re not going to see anyone’s actual one on one conversations
We’ve been married 15 years. If we use a first name to address each other it usually means we are out in public and trying to find one another. And that is only because if I shout ‘QD(cutie)’ 5 women will turn around thinking it is their SO so it isn’t super useful.
If you bugged our house you would think my wife’s name is Dear, QD, Darling, Beautiful, or “HOLY SHIT CHECK THIS OUT”. There is almost no chance you’d catch either of our real names on that tape.
they didn’t write or claim the vague and pointless response
“everybody uses their real names”.
they specifically claimed two things:
“Nobody I know doesn’t use real names when addressing their spouse.”
then they double down with
“I’ve literally never even met someone who would act the way you’re describing.”
“literally never”.
