This weekend I was camping at a faire with some friends, and resolved to tell the last person in my friend group about my transition.

The talks went over really well with my other friends, but I have been pretty anxious for each of them because I feel like I never have a good idea what the reaction will be.

In full disclosure, by this point in the faire all of us were fairly inebriated. The group had kind of fractured off into smaller clusters, so it was just me, my friend I hadn’t told, and one that I had. We were walking back to camp from a spot where we had been watching the stars, and I felt like it was as good an opportunity as any.

“Hey, now that we have a moment, I’ve got something I’ve gotta tell you,” I said. My friend inmediately froze in place, arms spread in a T-pose, eyes wide like a deer in headlights. I thought perhaps the way I lead into the convo sounded like I was going to say something grave lol.

“So… I’ve been going through a bit of a transition,” I say. She immediately loosens up once again and nods, following along with what I’m saying. “I’ve actually been on E for about two months.” “Uh huh,” she says, with a look that implied she was waiting for the bombshell she expected me to drop.

“That’s it,” I said after a moment. “That’s all the news,” I followed, laughing a little. “Oh ok, nice!” She replies. “That’s cool!” I guess she expected me to tell her I had cancer or something. I told her it seemed like she was taking this very casually, and she said that gender has always been whatever to her. “You’re still my friend. I think that’s awesome!”

I had not anticipated such immediate and unflinching acceptance. I count myself very fortunate to have such cool friends. Anyway, I thought it might be nice to put that story out there! I am still kind of reeling from the support I have received, and wanted to share.

Hope you all are having a good week!

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