Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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People naturally don’t want to think they are the problem. So, they blame society which leads to blaming women which leads to misogyny which leads to the dark side.

People who label themselves as incels are somewhat accepting that the factors that lead them to be incels are unchangeable ( physical characteristics, limiting standards, social deficiencies, bad luck). So they have taken the steps to the dark side. And vocal incels are more often well on that path.

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I’ve never encountered an incel that wasn’t misogynistic. Generally they blame women for their lack of sex.

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Explain to me how the basic concept is not misogynistic in itself.

As I’ve understood it, the idea of the incel movement is that these people deserve to get fucked, by whomever they choose, that they don’t have any obligation to change anything about themselves, they are just being treated unfairly.

It ignores the other person completely, they are just some price they deserve, not a living breathing person with their own feelings and preferences.

I realize people have trouble with social interaction, but an interaction with another person is inherently social, no two ways about it.

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Ah, I miss the good old days of r/incelwithouthate. The perfect site for a subhuman like me without the possible terrorism.

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