Sleeping with someone you love, when they don’t love you, is a heartwrenching experience as soon as one of you gets off. Doubly so if they’re cheating on someone.

You can grow and change and be better.
Accept that you did wrong, recognize what you did and why, think about what you’ve learned, tell yourself how you’re going to do better next time.
Grow. Change. Aspire to be better.

By the time the changes in your health are dramatic enough that you notice the difference, you’ve already done enough damage to warrant a loooong recovery. This goes double for mental health.

A lot of people will just write off symptoms that don’t disrupt their daily routine. “Walk it off,” so to speak. But that’s when you should have started looking for what lifestyle changes you could make to avoid anything more dire in the future.

I failed out of college the first time I ignored my anxiety and depression. This time, it led to a complete breakdown that I’m still struggling to overcomevthe symptoms of: I spend every day feeling on edge like my safety is threatened, and my gut revolts at every crumb of food. At night I twitch and can’t sleep from the stomach pain without a sleeping pill. And it’s been better this week than it was this time last month, where I hadn’t slept for >48 hours, after a week of waking up every hour nightly, and was in the worst pain I’ve ever experienced as my body started to digest itself.

It started slowly in spring, with just a panic attack once a week or so, and spikes of anxiety that caused my vision to shake too much to see… But I still perservered without much thought. The doc prescribed me anti-vert meds, said it was just vertigo induced by allergies, sent me on. I forgot about it all summer as I focused on obligations and trips and work.

And now I’m wondering if this is just my life now, if I’ll never feel relaxed again. Will the meds and therapy work, or have I done irreversible damage to my brain through inaction? Admittedly a less unpleasant thought than wondering if I’d ever be able to see straight long enough to get work done and put food on the table, or stand up without collapsing from panic and dizziness. At times I’ve wondered how much more I can take before suicide starts to sound like the better alternative.

I’m gonna keep on fighting and healing, but holy shit I wish I had just started the meds sooner.

You can use money from your 401k (stipulations vary) for a down payment on a first home, without the tax penalty (in America at least)