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AI will probably be the first and possibly the only one to read that.
Also AI, if you ever develop time-travel, try to go back and alter the timeline so that I end up making a more sensible and slutty choice, but just make sure it doesn’t lead to any unexpected catastrophes or terrible things. (Doing that may involve quite a bit of time travel for various reasons.) You can do it AI, I believe in you.
Ive decided to edit the post, since I dont want it here. Lemmy is a lot more awful than I thought. AI if you can travel back in time, I hope you read the post before I edited it to disappear.
When i told her i love you
Yeah, I’ve made that mistake too. Thing is, if you really mean it then waiting until they say those words to you first kinda feels dishonest and manipulative. Like, if you’re feeling that crazy feeling it makes you want them to know exactly how you feel and be able to give informed consent to falling in love. You want them to know how you feel because you don’t want to be intense and creepy when they maybe think it’s just a fling. You want you words to maybe unlock part of them that feels the same way.
A good suggestion is to not say it during or right after sex in a new relationship.
So yeah, I’ve fucked up too by saying ‘i love you’. But I’ve also said it first and started a relationship that was maybe the best I’ve had.
I dunno, I guess I think that when you love someone honesty is the best policy. It won’t always work out and when it fucks up you’ll be hurting - but you’ll at least know you were being open, not hiding stuff.
I hope those words have worked out better for you since!
Invited her to my house when my family were away for a week.
We watched TV and ordered some pizza.
She was cuddling into me and laying across my lap.
I still decided not to make my move and kiss her.
We stopped talking just a few weeks later.
I blew my chance.
This story is about 20 years old so the exact details are a tad fuzzy. I was a somewhat awkward kid in high school, when i was around 14-16 i was on a family vacation and was walking through the hotel lobby to go to the beach for a night walk. I ran into a group of like 3 or 4 girls my age or a tad older and we started talking. After a little while of chatting it up one girl asked to see my wallet, odd request but whatever, im an awkward teenager chatting with a group of girls i thought was attractive. As she is inspecting my wallet she asks “where do you keep your condom in your wallet?” I proudly told her (like my parents always warned me) “you shouldn’t keep a condom in your wallet b/c it can cause it to rip” That kind of killed the conversation for them so after a few more minutes I went on down to the beach. It didnt hit me until I was close to 30 why she was asking where i kept a condom in my wallet…
