I do a lot of things that people are afraid to do and it feels so easy for meā¦ and yet simple social interaction can be so incredibly stressful.
Honestly, nothing crazy. Things that have elecited reactions include traveling all over the place solo, scuba diving, sky diving, hopping into a four seater plane when itās raining and foggy, getting up in front of people singingā¦ Nothing really big, but the number of times people have said, āI could never do that!ā that have coincided with me thinking, āThis conversation is way more stressful than that!ā is kind of funny.
Rozwud, I challenge you to pet a cat in public while baby talking loudly, until the cat decides to leave.
I dreamed about my high school class today. The school psychologist came to our lesson. At some point, two priests showed up, and the teacher, along with the psychologist, ran to the psychologistās office. The priests chased after them because they had come to play with them (rap. yooo yooo- you know, banned word). One mischievous classmate also ran after them, and then policemen ran after them in the hallway to catch them.
Everything happened very quickly. Some of the classmates went into that room, but there was another door slightly ajar, and everyone was afraid to go in. Everyone was shouting one by one: āCut them off!ā
There was a bathtub in the corner, and suddenly one of the classmates started breaking eggs into it, and then everyone followed suit, and soon everything was spilling all over the floor. The end. The ending is funny. :D
Mine has Borderline Personality Disorder.
Waitā¦ Thatās not funnyā¦ š¤
Well, Iām happy that you asked š¤
Iām privileged with my brain, but it does require a lot of special attention.
As I mentioned in another comment here already, I think in experiences. This has many pros and cons.
One of the pros is that math comes easy to me because I can simply look at it and resolve it visually. While writing this I am seeing thin red lines tangling and detangling, because that is one representation of math to me.
When I close my eyes I immediately see a stream of morphing images, much like those diffuse ai videos. But it is fully immersive with sound and is also emotional. The past few years it has also turned haptic, which is a bit unsettling because I am worried about hurting myself with my physical pose. Iāve had a few times that I return and my legs are sleeping. When I say hapric I donāt just mean the ability to touch stuff, I also mean the deep feeling of being physically there.
I can go on, but I donāt want to make this too long. Here are some contras.
My brain simply refuses to do certain things, no matter how hard I want or need to do them. Itās not due to a lack of discipline. Basically I have a symbiotic relationship with my subconsciousness, and I better not forget it.
It always needs new information and to experiment with new things. This has consequences. For instance I canāt really hold a routine longer than that it is interesting. I can get up at 5 every day, go for a run, then get to work and earn money. But this will only last a maximum of a few months until my brain decides it is done with exploring it. After that all I can do is accept the verdict and come up with something new, even if I was rather enjoying the results, or needed it.
I canāt really play games for very long. If I really really like a game I can play it for maybe two weeks. But for the life of me I canāt understand how someone can play a game for thousands of hours. The flood of novelty changes into a trickle and itās just not enough to keep old Bessie happy. And it kind of sucks because I can imagine it must be so chill to just have this one goto game for unwinding, and it must be nice to be able to be part of a clan and to know all the little ins and outs of a game world.
I was absolutely atrocious in school. My brain is just incapable of learning that a queen has to be written to this way and a bishop has to be written to that way in a letter. I can see that itās easy. I can see that I need to learn it for my own good. But itās just not in the cards, so I flunked over and over again. I cried so much, and I didnāt realize that I wasnāt entirely stupid until I was 26!
A few years ago I had art therapy. The therapist told us to do a test. It was a piece of paper with a grid of points on it, some of them connected with lines. We had to look at it for a short while. Then we had to turn it over. On the other side you had the same grid but without any of the lines, and she told us to fill it in with the same pattern, from memory.
Most people there would have failed the test if it would have been in an academic setting. A few were pretty decent. But I aced it and didnāt miss a single thing. I cried so hard, because of all the trauma it brought up. It taught me that Iām not a failure and I have my own abilities.
One last contra is that all words appear experientially to me. So for example trickle down economy looks/feels like someone peeing. And thereās a user on here called maggot, and itās disgusting to me because I keep seeing a maggot in trash, and I can sort of feel its soft scales and so on.
Love this! Iām glad you were able to come to learn what worked best for you. There are levels of academia and standardized is not for everyone, so itās great that you eventually did find your strengths!
Thanks. Coming to this realization has allowed me to leverage my strengths on the market and also in terms of output for what I care about myself.
I feel this applies to so many other people too, that they feel bad about themselves because of what they were taught, and just donāt see how strong they really are in some areas.
For example a friend of mine has adhd and flunked everything. But when you are talking with her she can totally hyperfocus on you and absolutely be there. Sheās a listener and a healer. She has thank you notes from people all over her apartment.
Sheās also freakin poor and always struggling. I told her yesterday hey why donāt you go into coaching? There is such a high demand for people like you, you donāt have to be licensed, and I know youād ace it.
Holds up well to fast food, poor sleep, and no exercise š«
