My bestie broke both of his arms and wrists two days ago. He’s in his 20s, a gamer, has a pregnant wife and a young kid. Any ideas for gifts I can get to cheer him up? He’ll have no use of his arms for 3 months.

Already got a bidet for him and hooked it up. Looking into accessible gaming controllers, but he said that the pain is so bad rn that even alternative controllers are probably a no go.

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Uhhhh

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A caring mother…?

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Very caring indeed

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IYKYK

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every fucking thread

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We had an opportunity to be different, but it’s not Reddit, it’s us.

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You can take the redditor out of Reddit, but you can’t take the Reddit out of the redditor

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I don’t know why, but this moment of self realization is the best thing in this thread.

It’s like a gingerbread man in the gingerbread house comic moment

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I let us all down :(

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Jerk your buddy off for him since he can’t do that right now

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Nothing says you care like a no-homo handie.

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A bro-job, for good measure

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OP never said they were a man. Maybe it’s a no-hetero handie.

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Let’s maybe just leave that to his wife. Or his mother.

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OP is obviously a man or else they would be asking how to support the pregnant wife.

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Reddit is leaking, lol

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Shhh. It’s not like our first thought was “flashlight”

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Than one day he had an accident, they had to amputate his arms – and he was sad that day. Yes he was sad that day. He can’t surf, he can’t skate and he sure can’t masturbate no more.

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Cleaning service, any house services really, freezer meals, or other little to no prep foods, offer to play with their kid from time to time, help them relieve stress by unburdening them (by taking on chores), instead of providing an escape (video games)

Edit: not dissing video games, but a young one and another on the way is a lot of stress already.

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I hadn’t even considered cleaning services or meal kits. Those are a fantastic idea! I’ll reach out to his wife and get her input.

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I’m constantly overwhelmed with no broken arms, and just 1 day a week for someone to come in and “reset the mess” is incredible. You should probably talk with his wife and have the “this person is giving you time to do things that prioritize your family” talk, because some people can feel cleaning service is admitting failure in keeping up their home. (Also her talking with the kid about not treating this as an excuse to be messy isn’t bad either)

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Every hobby can be considered an escape. But that doesn’t make it bad. Even dads and husbands need “me time” for themselves. So don’t tax his gig so hard-core cruster.

Edit: spelling

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LMAO, I know it’s auto correct typos, but:

So don’t tax his gag so hard-core cruster.

Is excellent gibberish.

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I get this, I’m a dad, and I know that me time is wonderful, but I also know that if the house is in rough shape because I can’t do anything even if I wanted, that me time becomes an escape instead of a wind down, and the stress returns the moment the screen is off. Help with the house makes it so the relief lasts longer.

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That’s a bit of a biased opinion on video games, huh? Maybe some, but certainly not every game and definitely not every gamer is about escapism. Some people destress and chill out with games because they have other responsibilities like kids, work, etc…

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I’m in complete agreement, but with two broken arms, they aren’t going to be helping much with house chores (depending on how much mobility they actually have), and having those things done will actually allow for downtime.

Game thought: DDR?

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Game thought: DDR?

I feel like there’s a good chance you’d lose your balance with both arms in casts. Maybe not though. It’s a good suggestion!

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help them relieve stress by unburdening them…

Uhhhh what are you suggesting here exactly?

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Sending his mom over

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Thankfully you’re not his mom.

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explaining the source, TLDR mom ‘performed deeds’ for son with broken arms.

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Oh yeah, with a coconut, right?

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No with jumper cables.

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I’ve broken a lot of bones.

Get him stuff that helps the family so he doesn’t feel useless and guilty. That’s number 1. It’s awful to feel like a burden to everyone, and that doesn’t go away no matter what is said to you.

Second, stretch bands to put around limbs and pull. It feels amazing. You don’t realise how little you move and how little muscle you use while subconsciously “nursing” a broken bone.

Something insanely complex that involves both arms to use or solve. It’s just funny as shit. But also, I swear I recover faster.

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Just no train blueprints for Mr Glass over here

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Haha. I think my bone density is fine, I just ask a lot more of them than normal…

Bones: “This could break us.”

Brain: “Yeah, “could” but won’t. I got you.”

collective being does a thing that will be amazing or moronic depending on outcome in the next few seconds

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what do you do that demands so much from your bones, just out of interest?

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