I’ve figured out Iwas trans around a year ago. I’ve more accepted it 6-8 months ago, and fully embraced the identity a few months ago.
I feel like I’m able to see myself as a woman more often(presenting or not; probably the longer hair) but I find it hard to consciously switch names and pronouns since I feel like I still very much present masc¿and don’t look so femme, even if I want to.
It’s like, it feels somewhat in-genuine, you know? Deep, deep down, I want to be her, but also I don’t want the confrontation of, “you don’t look like a ‘her’.”
I just need some advice/encouragement. My therapist has asked multiple times if they should switch name/pronouns, but it’s so difficult face-to-face and not socially out.
Help plz?
Edit: I’m not sure how this ended up in the meme community 😅 I posted it late at night, but I thought I got /c/mtf instead
I didn’t really get comfortable with it before changing. I only got used to it a while after changing.
Before and after, there were feelings of guilt, shame, and fear. And the imposter syndrome on top of that.
I would like to encourage you to try with your therapist and if you’re privileged enough to have them, trusted friends. Those are helpful spaces to make you more comfortable.
Imposter syndrome! Yes! That’s what I’m afraid of. I may have to take my therapist up on that offer. I haven’t because I just don’t feel fem enough, but I guess, really, lots of people do about various things.
Such a mood. We all feel it from time to time. It’s important to remember that your thoughts don’t define who you are. I can’t count how many times I got hung up on an intrusive thought that spiralled into just straight up attacking and being transphobic to myself. Respecting yourself is tough, but it’s possible. Still learning this myself, tbh. Heh. But knowing who you are can take time. Understanding ourselves doesn’t happen overnight. ^^
Just remember that it’s important to feel comfortable with ones self. We’re all gonna experiment here and there with things until we feel most comfortable. We’re here for each other, and if you feel like you aren’t fem enough than keep on femmin’ until it’s no longer an argument! Can’t argue with straight up facts, gurl. -w- hehe~
I hope you get everything you want and more. 🫂❤️
getting used to name and pronoun changes always takes time.
i suggest asking people who u are comfortable with to use them for you, and you will het used to them in no time (online spaces can also help a lot)
It was hard asking my mom to call me by a different name but she was supportive and that helped a lot. If mirrors don’t make you want to implode then you could practice calling yourself the name you want and asking whoever you imagine to respect that and whatever pronouns you choose
It took me like 6 months to tell my family new pronouns, and another few months to stand up and enforce it. I felt the same sort of not deserving of it until a few months on HRT (might be coincidence, as I’m also just overall happier and more confident).
Just be yourself
