97% sure someone posted this at some point, but I think it’s been a while… ⊙﹏⊙
This. I’d rather die alone than risk even the slightest possibility of making someone else uncomfortable.
why yes I am in therapy how did you know
I feel the exactly the same but am not in therapy. … Maybe I should consider therapy.
Yeah the fear of imposing on someone. There are plenty of assholes, but lots of perfectly nice people just communicate what they want/need/feel and it’s okay. Not just talking about dating.
Then whenever you take your risk and do it, and get rejected, you retreat back to try it again in 6 months.
Edit: I have zero problem and welcome people being honest, and adjust accordingly. But when I try to do that it rarely works the same way. Could just be how I communicate, but it is a struggle.
I think the thing that makes people uncomfortable in this kind of scenario is if you don’t stop when they ask you to. Or you just refuse to take no for an answer. But our species would cease existing if nobody ever was made uncomfortable at some point by flirting because everyone’s lines and desires are on a spectrum. You can say the exact same thing the same way to two different folks and one will turn around and slap you for it and the other will get on their knees for you. Humans are weird.
I can make this easier, at least for anyone interacting with me:
If you’re reading this, you - yes, you - have my full and explicit permission to compliment me, flirt with me, or ask me out. I am extremely good at saying no if needed and promise not to be offended if you make the first move.
Also you’re cute 😘
I’m aggressively poly so, yeah. I’m constantly shooting all of the shots.
Is it bad that i kinda read this like a llm preprompt? Except for people, and to be honest im kinda here for it. I kinda feel bad for bothering people, and this “preprompt” kinda opens the door for conversation
I wish people would just write clear and detailed LLM prompts when they want something from me.
I just imagine a black mirror esq morning.
“I wake from my slumber, forlorn from my bed. The lights slowly rise from pitch black to light, i walk over to my smart mirror. Where my AI greets me, “good morning, your preprompt for today is (your name is bob saget, live on 4681 road, your favorite color is blue you work at a car dealership and you are the best salesman” the time is 4:30am mr.saget you must arive by 5:00 if you are to keep your very busy schedule. Good luck bob and have a pleasant day.” The conveyor belt turn on slowly and methodically moving me to my automobile and i leave for work.
That’s quite kind of you. And interestingly, despite you clearly communicating an open invitation for interaction, I still encounter internal resistance, almost like a reflex… which suggests it is still very much a personal issue, and not a cultural one.
Thank you for this moment of reflection, mysterious internet person.
99% sure that’s pretty normal for healthy minded people, men, women, trans, non-binary etc.
Making the first move is taking a risk: aka being vulnerable. It’s when they don’t respond enthusiastically and you don’t stop that it’s a problem.
It is normal to feel some degree of trepidation when taking a risk: aka being vulnerable, but I don’t think its a stretch of the imagination to assert that it might be more stressful if you don’t have a firm grasp of neurotypical social graces and nonverbal communication.
As an autistic person, what has worked quite well for me, though takes getting used to, is very transparently communicating about intentions and consent. It can seem quite intense but it does mean everyone knows where they stand and where boundaries lie.
This is one of the many reasons why my life is easier now that I’ve transitioned from male to female. Now when I do something cringy and weird in order to flirt, people just think it’s cute.
I’m on the good side of the double standard now!
I mean not having gender dysphoria anymore’s a bigger plus, but ya know, count ya blessings.
this sounds great but unfortunately is not guaranteed to work (ask me how I know). Terms and conditions apply
Hell even cis lesbians struggle with this a lot (afaict it’s the source of the infamous top shortage)
Gosh I still feel like a predator
Maybe I should have just stayed in the vore community, I was in demand lol
No worries I will make the first move
Pawn to e4
