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As I get older I’ve grown annoyed at the power a truly beautiful woman has over me. It’s just a pretty exterior, why should she deserve different treatment than any other nice person? But my heartrate and power of speech don’t seem to agree with this unfortunately.

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You should read Liking What You See by Ted Chiang. It’s a fun little short story.

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No they don’t, and yes they do.
Imagine not being able to walk home alone after sunset, ever.
Imagine thirsty stares from distant relatives at family gatherings, “accidental” touches and cat-calling just becoming a fact of life for you as early as age 12.
Imagine losing close male friends cause it turns out they’re sexually attracted to you and can’t deal with rejection.
Imagine never knowing if a man will react violently when you say “no”.
Imagine most men in power never taking you seriously for your skills, and co-workers whispering behind your back how you probably only got your position by blowing the boss.

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I believe there’s some truth in both viewpoints. What you’re saying is definitely true, but there’s plenty of men who would do almost anything a beautiful woman asks for while not giving a plain woman the time of day.

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yeah I fucking wish man

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You might not think I’m pretty, but I can pay attention to you, if you want. I don’t mind.

… I’m like 90% gay tho

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What do you mean by “90%”?

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The other percentage is twink. Still gay, but for guys this time

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The 10% is the universal aestetic of an ass.

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Then you realize they were just doing it to be polite, like everyone else.

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One time while I was walking down the street this lady walking the other direction told me I was looking good.

I realize she was just saying it as a “spontaneous act of kindness” sort of thing, but it was like 20 years ago and I remember it.

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Someone complimented my hair at a bus station well over a year ago and I still think of it sometimes.

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When a pretty girl pays attention to you but you remember you are straight :(

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My condolences /hj

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