The manosphere is the symptom.
This. I would argue housing affordability is one of the main root causes.
I’ll give it a watch, thank you! I’m not saying it’s not problematic and doesn’t amplify the crazy, btw. It most certainly does. The sickness is not creating a society that has time, money, and skill set necessary to well… properly socialize our population, as well as innoculate them against this mess. But in a sane world, most manosphere garbage would be banned as hate speech, probably.
100%, this video mostly goes into how fascism requires violent men to sustain it, and so violent men it will create through isolation and harmful propaganda. it’s basically positive feedback loop where as fascism gains more ground, it isolates us more, making it easier to make men feel lonely and like they’re failures, and that the system doesn’t work, but instead of trying to make the system work by embracing a new view, they instead move from violence to hyperviolence.
the video basically both agrees with you, and at the same time makes a compelling argument that all the people killing us right now are sad pathetic losers whose daddies never loved them, and they see no avenue to a better tomorrow so they do… this
I haven’t seen that one, but I love FD.
Check out Sixteenth Minute of Fame, too. Jamie Loftus did a multi-part series on the Manosphere, and it’s excellent.
It’s serious but still funny, rich in historical detail but still personal, and she portrays it as patriarchy vs everyone (not men vs women) without turning that into a free pass for men.
You can tell she put a ton of extra care into these ones.
The problem is that something is missing and it’s being filled by angry reactionaries and right wing grifters who prey on the particular insecurities of young men, specifically insecurities around masculine values.
What’s missing is a foundational framework for understanding the male experience as distinct yet coequal to feminist theory. A framework that seeks to promote a balanced, respectful dialogue by articulating unique structures, values, and challenges faced by men, in order to offer a lens through which male identity, struggle, and transformation can be understood on their own terms, while upholding - acknowledging - the progress and insights of feminism.
These men feel like they don’t have purpose or identity. They need a framework, but unfortunately efforts to define and build such a framework are often hijacked by extremists that just hate women and minorities. Like we see now.
Do we really need to make the framework different for male and female humans? Why not use one for humans and teach tolerance to difference in general? I don’t think many of the issues we face will be solved if we keep two different frameworks.
The framework that is built from the oppression of women, and the challenges that arise from that, does not represent the lived experiences, challenges, or values of men. All too often it diminishes these. To move forward in a spirit of mutual understanding requires a recognition of what matters to men; i.e., what provides purpose and value.
I feel that you may be misunderstanding me. This is exactly about tolerance and acceptance - including acceptance that men and women have different lived experiences that are founded on different fundamental principles of what is important and what provides purpose. Is it really so difficult to accept that men might find purpose or value that differs from women? I don’t believe there is harm in acknowledging that, and respecting a healthy understanding of that difference.
I don’t deny that the current experience of life is different because of gender/sex. So I am rather talking about the target, a society without sexism.
Is it really so difficult to accept that men might find purpose or value that differs from women?
Yes, I am indeed questioning this point. Is this difference in the essence of the gender or is it a social construct?
For me, it’s actually not hard to imagine that men and women could share the same distribution of purposes and values, if the environment in which they grew up supported it. The diversity would be based on the uniqueness of individuals with little to no influence from the gender.
I find it very oppressing to have the specific framework you mention associated to you because of your gender. What about transgender people or people who don’t associate with a traditional gender?
Chinese culture has the concept of ‘eating bitterness’ and it is universal. It’s about being able to take the suffering, loss, pain, humiliation, and all the other bitter stuff that life can throw at you, enduring it, and building character, strength, and resilience out of it. It’s a virtue. It’s a universally admired trait.
North American culture is not great at eating bitterness. The culture here is more about eating sweet, or living the good life, and when people have to eat bitterness, especially those expecting to eat sweet, it is viewed as shameful and castigating rather than normal, and it easily turns a person towards grievance and a sense of injustice that makes them bitter inside instead of resilient and optimistic.
This is why I think men in North America, especially white men, have turned to characters like Jordan Peterson, or in worse cases, Andrew Tate. Jordan Peterson at least tries to help these men develop a sense of responsibility and strength that can be constructive and meaning- making. Guys like Tate, on the other hand, exploit their grievance to make them socially nihilistic. One is obviously much better than the other, but neither is a substitute for having a common social value place upon eating bitterness.
The “manosphere” gives aggrieved, frustrated, disappointed, and angry men stories to help them process their emotions, but they still rely upon self-centered and egotistical tropes like the hero’s journey or misogynistic worldviews. These don’t address the deeper and more universal reality that none of us (male or female) are heroes from Marvel movies, that deep, painfully-bitter experience is part of the common human journey, and that eating that bitterness with humility and without expectation of any award for being special, is a virtue that helps you develop character.
I’m not from NA and I don’t think that’s specific to NA, I saw this in people from Western Europe, Northern Africa and Japan. Also whatever positive aspect of traditional culture there may be, everything seems to get crushed by the social media bulldozer consumeing hours a day from childhood.
AFAB here and I agree 100% - the issue is that by elevating that which used to acceptably be oppressed, the primary oppressor feels that they have lost station and position as they see society as a ladder - if you aren’t at the top someone else is above you. That kind of thinking makes this even more difficult to solve.
How can right wing extremists hijack a “foundational framework” when you offer nothing. For them to hijack the conversation you would first have to offer substance that then is taken but you don’t offer anything. That is why they vote against you. You are for the betterment of one sex and that doesn’t include them. Why would they vote with you? If the situation were reversed you wouldn’t vote with them either.
I must live in a bubble. Both of my (university age) kids and their friends are vocally offended by Trump and Musk, and they think Polierve is a bad joke.
My oldest games online with a few Americans and they are also very anyi-trump. (“They wouldn’t be my friends if they supported him”)
You are most likely living in a bubble. Cherish it, but don’t forget, that there are a lot of people that feel different from you.
I do have the same experience. My social circle is very much open, tolerant and absolutely hates what the GOP in America and right leaning/right wing parties in Europe are doing and proposing. I know almost no young people that support strong conservative or right leaning policy and talking points. I am however also in contact with a different group of people (through my countrys military/military reserve), that very much leans into those right talking points and favours more conservative policy.
If you can, engage with them and try to understand them and help them understand your point.
Well the kids are leaning right because of propaganda and mind control. Plain and simple. Instagram and Twitter actively push ragebait content designed to radicalise impressionable kids.
Shitty parenting and the education system being eroded year by year. This is the generation that the billionaires wanted. Poor, stupid and complicit.
