OP’s mom was responsible for making them a productive, happy, independent person. But she clearly failed, that’s on her
I don’t think anyone knows the green text poster in question, so it could be either honestly. ‘You can lead a horse to water’ and all of that
Human children aren’t horses, and I know being a parent is difficult, and that you might fail. And even if you do fail it might not be your fault, but it is still your responsibility.
You made the kid after all, you put them in the weakest state any human could ever be.
Plenty of people try to convince themselves otherwise, but you didn’t give that kid a choice in wether they wanted to live
I’m not comparing children to horses, it’s a proverb. You’ve created a really detailed narrative around a green text (meme) that I don’t really feel like playing along with.
PS; I am not the mother of this green text, not sure why you’re framing it like that