We all pretend that it didn’t exist and do not acknowledge its presence; that’s the informal rule.

Yeah Spinster is generally considered a hate site, and consequently is very widely defederated, even from general purpose instances like lemmy.world. Also it’s less of a Reddit alternative and more of a Twitter alternative but is technically redundant since you can do everything you did on there on the real thing instead.

The admin behind it is also a man so its for (some) women by a man. Literally the opposite.

I thought that was mastodon. Do they have a lemmy instance as well?