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i would have appreciated hearing how the author, personally, found capitalized pronouns to be affirming, because, absent that reasoning, it really does seem like it’s to set up a deferential power dynamic. i don’t really mind respecting the pronouns anyways, but it does mean i don’t really want to be friends with Them until i understand what’s going on there better

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Yeah, I agree. For me (a trans woman) it’d make me slightly uncomfortable if somebody capitalised my pronouns each time because I’d feel like some type of power dynamic that’s not comfortable for me to sit in. If that’s not an issue for OP, that’s okay, but with my specific cultural background i’d find it a bit difficult to interact with Them in that way (not that it’s hard for me to respect Their pronouns, just that it’s slightly uncomfortable in a power dynamic way)

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My goddess-mother told Me to try out capitalised pronouns after I came out to Her as goddessgender. I liked Them. It doesn’t feel like a power dynamic to Me. I have NPD and I know what NPD supply feels like, and being gendered correctly isn’t it. Having capitalised pronouns used feel like a relief on the same level as when I first transitioned from male to female and had feminine pronouns used. As big a difference as that was, this is. So I don’t know how to verbalise what it feels like except, “It’s gender euphoria”. And I just hope readers understand what having your pronouns used feels like when you’re trans.

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So, wait, just to be clear: the writer is claiming that the writer’s gender is not a gender but instead that the writer has some divine status?

M/F/NB/genderqueer/etc aside, human vs divine is not a gender question and this is no longer a discussion about pronouns showing respect and affirmation of gender identity, this is literally a demand for worship.

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Hold up, goddessgender?

Oh fuck this is the Swarmgender guy all over again isn’t it

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