My feeling is Lemmy and Reddit both suck terribly. Reddit has the advantage of having more people, so left-leaning subreddits are just larger by default, and there is a higher population of people who aren’t white IT guys. Lemmy users, in my experience, are also sexist, transphobic etc, but are very eloquent about it and mods will jump on you for telling a transphobe they’re an asshole. Lemmy is up it’s ass on “civility” rules, but these are enforced unequally depending on what opinions you are sharing. Basically if you downplay genocide but say it without swearing, that is considered somehow more civil than telling transphobes to fuck off.
Just curious, are you on Hexbear? lemmy.world isn’t federated with them so you may not have seen their posts/posters. They’re pretty harsh on transphobes and are one of the best trans spaces i’ve been on.
I made an account but haven’t used it much, seemed a bit slow and I like to use Lemmy for news. I agree though, the vibe is completely different!!