This is very true, though I don’t really care how the family gets destroyed, I don’t want to have a destroyed family at this point in my life right now because I need their support in other ways, so if I can avoid pulling the pin on a series of events I know my father will choose to react poorly to, I want to save myself that stress.

I know my mental health could not handle a family break down right now.

It’s so baffling because this is really one of the only things he has an issue with. Other than my passport, he doesn’t talk or act like he has any major issues with the government as a process.

I will say, I’m not too worried that his anti-gov opinions will result in great levels of harm. My country had had a conservative party in power for some time now. I also hate the current government. My dad marches at the fortnightly pro-palestine rally in our city, and he attends antifa and pro queer events with me and my mum. Last year he phoned me to get information about the socialist party because after years of voting for the labour/workers party he’s going harder left. He values my political opinion. He’s socially progressive (despite having the wrong vocabulary to express his opinions, nothing funnier than an old bloke saying “what is everyone’s problem with fags reading books to kids!? It’s so wholesome”)

And I would say he’s masking some of deep rooted misogyny or something and just wants to prevent his female kid from accessing basic government services.

But he’s got no issues with women and non men having passports, and in every other aspect of my life he is supportive and wants me to succeed…he also wants me to travel, he keeps saying he’ll pay for my holiday, but I tell him I don’t need money, just his birth certificate, and he continues to say “no you don’t need that, you just need your birth certificate”

I’ve taken him to the passport office with me and had the admin worker tell him to how face he needs to give me his birth certificate, and he told her “no, that’s unnecessary” and then he walked out and waited for me in the car.

It all started in the last 5 years, in 2019. In my 20s, he had no issues whatsoever with anything I did, I wasn’t in a financial position to travel so I never looked into getting a passport till I was almost 30, and suddenly dad didn’t want the government in his business but only in the context of me requiring to prove that he’s my parent.

It’s not even like I can write him off as senile.

That would be breaking and entering, and theft, and I also can’t be certain he even has a copy at his house, I also need to get it witnessed and notorised for my application, which is harder to do stealthily with my disabilities.

I do not want to break the law in order to get a passport of the country I’m a citizen of.

My mother and he are long divorced.