“you’re a mod too, so you should know where I’m coming from and what these rules mean” is a whole lot of a different sentence than “you should know better”. That’s what I’m saying - you and I can sit down on the toilet and think of a million ways of saying it better. Happening for months doesn’t need to be brought up - you are reacting to what is happening now and what you want to happen instead. Dwelling on the past is counterproductive. You are informing a user for the very first time about something they shouldn’t be doing - they know it then and there. Mentioning “you have made this mistake multiple times now but I didn’t say anything!” is blaming someone for not reading your mind. If it happens after you confronted someone and you did it again? Sure, bring up the previous conversation.

Even if you go the confrontation route - I see a misinfo report that shouldn’t be that, please don’t report things as these comments. - oh I disagree - that’s your right but ultimately I’m asking you to stop reporting comments like these - oh then I’ll stop reporting alltogether - i’d rather you still reported abuse, but please don’t report opinion as misinfo. Thank you.

End scene. No need to keep arguing, no need for personal feelings, no need for bad communication.

Mods being volunteers with personal lives doesn’t really excuse a bad interaction. Just because companies train people for something doesn’t mean it is some esoteric knowledge. It needs to be pointed out to “level” the knowledge of every single manager / tlead. But at the end of the day, it’s just good listening and objectively looking at something, and not letting your emotions get the better of you.