I was browsing the fediverse explorer and did not find lemmy.ml in the instances list.
It was removed deliberately during the reddit exodus in order to direct new Lemmy users elsewhere. Rather than to overload lemmy.ml further.
I’m on Lemmy.ml and am anything but a “tankie”. Love it here. Tonnes of tech/varied posts in my main subscribed feed and I’ve never noticed anything other than a minimal dose of drama…Facebook or Reddit are much more toxic in comparison which is part of the reason I left those places.