Something I’ve been able to do somehow that I’m very proud of is to train myself to hold space for, and to appreciate cognitive dissonance — I’ve found that trying to quickly clear away the discomfort of it leads to doubling down on beliefs or opinions, which isn’t productive. I used to do that a lot, because I had internalised an image of myself as someone whose views and beliefs are consistent and coherent (not like all those other stupid people). I cringe to think of past me, but I suppose that’s good in a way, because progress.

Most of my progress has come from remodelling of my world view, which is a messy and lengthy process. Sometimes I have to sit with the discomfort of cognitive dissonance for a while before I can understand it and resolve it.