At least on the communities i follow. Every so often I come across a thread where i recognize most of the users there even in the big communities with over 30k members and I haven’t even been on lemmy that long.
There are many ways to say it. Starting with “am I the only one…” feels like a pretentious passive selfishness. Like people who never learn proper English to put the other person first when listing them and yourself. Not “me and my friend” but rather “my friend and I.”