For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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Men are often expected to swallow their emotions and just “function”, while women are allowed and even encouraged to display them openly

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That’s a funny one because men are celebrated for suppressing emotions and women are penalisd for showing them.

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Its sort of crazy how there’s no real effort to help people develop their emotional intelligence as a kid or beyond. It should be like no later than grade 1 or 2 where people learn about their feelings and setting limits with people.

So many parents gasp at the idea of their child actually having boundaries that are to be respected because muh dominion or they never learned about it themselves and aren’t open to everyone simply being more observant and respectful of them

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One reason we chose the school my kids go to is because they do teach about emotions and friendship and so on.

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This is called Social Emotional Learning and is a big thing in the school I teach in, but has big pushback from many conservatives because it talks about respecting people for their differences, even if they are gay or trans or a poc.

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Yeah the patriarchy is really just the ruling class using us to suppress each other.

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Which is also funny because that leads directly to a lot of mental problems for these men.

I see a change is this trend, but a lot of damage has already been done and it will take quite a while to recover from this.

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Unless that emotion is anger. That’s the one exception.

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Yes! 100%.

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Hmmm, I think Kyle Rittenhouse and Gus Walz might have a different perspective. One displayed remorse through blubbering “tears” to play-act out of murder charges and one displayed genuine emotion for a successful family member. Both were pilloried for displaying emotion, fake or real.

Magic Eight Ball says: Concentrate and ask again

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Women absolutely are penalized for showing emotion. Socially between friends there is a lot better support, and that is probably what you are thinking of. In a workplace environment though, there can be serious consequences for expressing anything other than congeniality. If you’re socially withdrawn you’re an ice queen, if you get angry (no matter how justifiable) you’re a bitch or a dragon lady. If you’re stressed and not perfectly composed you’re weak “unable to handle the pressure”. I get that men are subject to the same kind of judgments but there seems to be more leeway.

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It’s not that women are “allowed,” it’s more so that women are expected to be emotional because they’re oh such emotional creatures and of course she’s crying.

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Men are often expected to swallow

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their emotions

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I would counter this and say any woman with a career can absolutely not show emotion. They’re expected to behave like men, which are in turn not supposed to show emotion in the workplace. It’s less of a double standard and more of a toxic standard.

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Commenter didn’t say work. It’s true in all circumstances.

You recognizing it as true in the work place by understanding women are expected to be like men in the work place. Because men are not expected to show emotions.

Your counter is actually an example.

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