So I know that despite the classic portrayal of an autist being someone who is asexual, many of us are at the opposite end of the scale. Yet if you search for Lemmy communities, there are several for asexual folk and none for hypersexual folk. Is there any good resources for us to rant/support each other/talk about our struggles? If it were specifically for neurodivergent folk, that would be a great bonus.
I think it’s uncommon just because society doesn’t really view it as a problem. Hypersexual women are so desirable people barely believe they could exist, and hypersexual men are just… normal. Every guy is like that, men only want one thing dontcha know.
It’s the same thing as trying to talk about the difficulties of having a big dick - building a community is hard when every 2nd response is “lel imagine this being all you have to complain about dae charmed life”.
It’d sure be great to have a support group, but you’d need the terminator of moderators to keep it from being overwhelmed by losers trying to hit up everyone that posts.
Hypersexuality that primarily exists in one gender is a massive problem for everyone. And I know there are hypersexual women who are in relationships with men with lower libidos (know one personally) - maybe they have a house or children or other emotional/financial anchor.
But yeah moderation sounds like a nightmare.
I’m pretty sure society would view it as a problem if they came home to find me fisting their mum. Which I would 100% do because I have no standards.
If I had to speculate wildly (oh nooooo not speculating-wildly, I hate doing that nooo…), the problem there is that they’re discovering their mum getting fisted, not that you’d be willing to do that (maybe their mum is into it, not judging). Spending three minutes in a COD lobby will confirm the existence of people that want to fist your mum, I don’t think anyone is particularly surprised by that aspect of the situation (except for the people discovering their mum in the act of getting fisted and, possibly, the mum). I’m not saying this is a bad idea, I am in a relationship with someone who’s sex drive is waaaaaaay higher than mine and being able to talk about that would be awesome! I’m just saying that ‘society at large’ is awful, and anything that doesn’t align very specifically with broad cultural values of something being ‘a problem’ is going to be overlooked or dismissed as ‘whining’ or ‘being ungrateful’ or whatever other toxic thing. Hence why that community doesn’t exist yet.
I’d just like to talk to other people who’s first thought when meeting someone is also “I wanna make you sound like brain damaged livestock”.
