Kink education & dicussion
!kink@lemmy.blahaj.zone
A place for education and discussion around kink.
This is a queer and trans-first space.
This is not a place to do, display or find partners for kink.
Examples for educational etc purposes are okay for now, we may change that or open other communities in the future.
Beliefs of the creators of this group and thus the group itself:
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Kink is not inherently sexual
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Consent is required for all kink and things should be discussed as much as is necessary without complaints from any involved party, in the sense of “can we start already?” or “your boundaries are too much.” etc.
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Safe words, phrases, signs, signals etc are important
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Consent can and should be able to be revoked at any time, documents etc do not override this and in our opinion are a bad idea, if they explicitly state or imply that they do.
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Kink based around societal oppressive power-dynamics are harmful things such as misogyny, race-play, ableism, fetishisation of trans or queer folks and other bigotries etc, and as such are unwelcome here.
Rules:
- No racism
- No queer{phobia/misia}, trans{phobia/misia}
- No misogyny
- No ableism
- No erasure of any identity
- No exclusion of any based purely on identity
- No fetishisation of groups of people e.g. no chasers etc.
Watch this space for changes as this community hopefully grows and/or we learn new things/can express ourselves better or are shown to be incorrect or wrong etc.
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Blåhaj Lemmy is brought to you by the kind folk at Blåhaj Zone, and while anyone is free to register for an account here, please bear in mind that this is a server that is very protective of our minority members and bigotry of any variety will be squashed with great prejudice.
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We have a public matrix channel for all Blahaj users at #blahaj:chat.blahaj.zone
We also have a matrix channel for gender diverse folk and our allies! If you’re already a matrix user, you can head straight to our application room https://matrix.to/#/#gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone, or by searching for #gv-apply:chat.blahaj.zone from within your matrix client.
If you’re new to matrix, you can find some more details and an instruction video on how to get up and running here https://chat.blahaj.zone/c/genderverse/
Community Guidelines
Blåhaj Lemmy is a space where everyone should feel able to participate safely, and to that end, our community is built on the guiding philosophies of empathy, inclusion and acceptance.
Empathy
We want our community members to be guided by compassion and empathy for others.
Examples of behaviour that are contrary to this philosophy are personal attacks, insults, doxing etc. If your comment is designed to hurt someone, this isn’t the space for it.
Inclusion and Acceptance
Embracing inclusion and acceptance means listening when people tell you who they are and what their needs are. It means not telling people that you know their experiences better than they do. It means not gatekeeping experiences of identities of others. It means no bigotry such as racism, sexism, anti LGBT commentary, ableism etc. It means doing your best to ensure that you don’t over-talk the voices of folk who don’t share your privileges.
Supporting Blåhaj Lemmy
After much hesitation, we have a Ko Fi to enable people to help with supporting some of the running costs associated with our instances.
Providing a safe space for our community is the goal, so please only consider donating if you are in a position to do so without any financial stress.
Mascot and logo
Find out about our mascot Shonky (they/them) who appears on our site logo here.
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