exocrinous
Using my sense of affective empathy, I see that you’re scared of me because I’m disabled. Using my sense of cognitive empathy, I make an educated guess that you’ve accepted a bunch of stereotypes about disabled people as true without seriously checking them. Putting myself in your shoes, I can only imagine I would take such a confrontational stance with someone just for how they were born, if I was scared absolutely shitless. Drawing on my own experience as a person living with NPD, and factoring in your lack of experience, I don’t believe at all what you’re saying about neurotypicals having empathy for people with NPD by default and making a conscious choice to turn it off. I’ve been in thousands of situations where a neurotypical interacted with a person living with NPD, involving thousands of neurotypicals. I only know of one time you’ve been in such a situation.
Sorry, but my empathy is very deeply impaired and there’s almost nothing I can do about it. The empathy I feel for others is very finely tuned, I have plenty of it, I always know and understand what other people are feeling. But the empathy I GET from others is nearly nothing. I receive an impaired sense of empathy from neurotypicals. Other people with NPD have been very kind to me, but neurotypicals make a choice not to put in the 10% extra effort it takes to feel empathy for a person with NPD. That’s why you think I’m toxic. You’re choosing not to feel empathy for me. You’re choosing not to understand the position I’m in, and so when I complain about a problem or try to fix it, you think I’m complaining about nothing.
The only thing I can do to resolve my problems with empathy is to campaign for greater recognition of the fact that we disabled people ARE people. Whether you choose to listen is something entirely out of my control.
I’ve never been toxic on Lemmy, and I’ve never violated the rules of an instance or community I was commenting on. I do however have a disability I’ve been banned for, and I’ve espoused pro-trans political views that certain admins have taken issue with.
I actually got banned from startrek.website, the instance I’m leaving this comment from, for a while. They thought I was faking being trans. After a few months, it became clear I’m not faking, and they apologised and here I am.
RE: my other comment
Also, if I’m understanding the situation correctly, you heard that I got doxxed, went to go look for my private information, got upset when you couldn’t find it, and yelled at me about it? Why’s it so precious for you to want my private information? What’s with this harassment?
I wouldn’t have made a public comment about the issue if the db0 admin had done a good enough job at it that you’d be able to look it up. Then I’d be the one doing the doxxing, what with the Streisand effect. I told you the db0 admin did a bad job. But jumping straight to accusations of lying just because you didn’t pay attention? What’s your grudge against me?
Yeah, it really is. Because modlog actions are federated and irreversible, mod logs are a form of speech that cannot be suppressed in any way. If you search up a user, you see what every mod on the whole fediverse has to say about them, and there’s no way to argue back. It’s the perfect tool for harassment and doxxing. One of the db0 admins even tried (and did a bad job) to dox me using the modlog.
Ocean’s heavier than hair
If there’s a nuclear war I’d rather be using the decentralized, free to use mode of transport that is bikes. Or legs. When the war comes all the car drivers will run out of fuel in a couple days and have to steal it, but I already have a bicycle and cannot be stopped by the breakdown of society.