GlitterInfection

Now that’s some bad parenting.

I don’t think this counts as parenting, because OP isn’t a child.

That’s a very fed up roommate being passive aggressive instead of just going through a justified eviction.

Hello purple mug!

Counterpoint: people have to get up at all kinds of horrible hours of the day in order to enslave themselves to their employers voluntarily, so letting them take back a few minutes of their day through passive aggressive mug-credos is the least we can do.

Are these all Linux distros? I’m confused.

Relationships are all about little compromises. It’s impossible to have a relationship without them so what you say she’s saying is nonsense. So, here are some wild likely wrong guesses that try to make sense of it based on what you’ve said:

1. Big changes, like fundamental identity changes, aren’t great for relationships, and maybe she’s had to deal with someone trying to do that kind of change in the past, so she’s come to the false conclusion that nobody should change anything about themselves in a relationship?

2. Another potential option is that she’s looking for excuses for the relationship to end but doesn’t want to do it herself.

3. She’s naive and childishly wanting someone exactly the same as she is, but she’s with you because she’s still yet to find that mythical prince that she hopes is around the corner.

4. She’s having cold feet about the relationship and projecting that pretty normal experience onto something in the relationship to make it your fault.

Anyway, my advice would be couples counseling if she’s willing, to help you both communicate expectations and wants.